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Latter Day Box Review

March 20, 2018 by kim.milius@gmail.com Leave a Comment

I got myself signed up for the very first month of Latter Day Box a few months ago. I’ve always loved the idea of these fun subscription boxes where you get a surprise box in the mail every month. Of course, you’ve paid for it in advance, but its still like getting a fun gift in the mail — who wouldn’t like that? But I never signed up for one until now. There are two problems, really. The first is the clutter – when you’re getting a box of surprise goodies, more than likely something in there isn’t going to be something you’ll use or will just be excess “stuff” you don’t need. For someone who gets overwhelmed by too much clutter, that is a really bad idea! The second is cost – do I really need to spend $30, $40, $50 on unnecessary stuff every month when there are so much better ways to be spending that money? Yep, that’s the frugal side of me coming out.

So, with both of those things in mind, I loved the idea of the Latter Day Box – a monthly box of LDS goodies, including a book – but it still took me a long time and a lot of back-and-forth in my head for me to finally sign up. I thought it was a brilliant idea, but those two problems just kept coming to mind. When I finally did sign up, I signed up with the month to month option so I wasn’t locked in and could drop it if I felt like it wasn’t worth it. But I really thought this could be something great. If I was going to be bringing more “stuff” into my house every month, if it was stuff that helped me and my family become more centered on the gospel of Jesus Christ, why wouldn’t I want that?

And I have to tell you I have loved it! Every month I get a new book — and every one of the books, when I’ve pulled them out of the box, I have been excited by the title. The one I’m reading right now, I am really loving and feel like its going to be a real life-changing book; I can’t wait to share a book review when I finish it! In addition to the book, they include other fun things. The ones I have loved the most are pictured below: my bracelet that says “God is my strength” on the inside of it, a wooden tag that says “enjoy the little things”, the dish that I set by the sink to hold my wedding ring and bracelet when I do the dishes that says “with God all things are possible”, and the little bird that hangs from the review mirror in my car and says “the Lord is my strength and my song”. They’re little bits of uplifting encouragement that I see all throughout my day.

And those things that I’m not sure I have a place for or need? I have a little box stashed in my closet to keep them. When I need a quick little gift for someone at church or a family member, I have things on hand right there. For someone who doesn’t live near a Deseret Book, it has been really awesome! My kids will each be getting a new scripture marking pencil in their Easter baskets; this month’s box had a CTR carabiner clip that I loved so much I had to find more online to give one to each of my kids to hook to their backpacks; and I even have something special on hand to give a little girl for her baptism this weekend.

Bottom line: if you haven’t heard of Latter Day Box, you need to check it out! And if you have heard of it and you’ve been waffling back and forth, give it a try and see what you think.

Here’s an unboxing facebook live video I did for the box I got this month:

General Conference: 9 Fun Note Taking Ideas for Kids

March 9, 2018 by kim.milius@gmail.com 2 Comments

General Conference weekend! I always look forward to it, while at the same time worrying about it. I love the spiritual uplift it brings when I’m able to listen to the talks and to the spirit. But sometimes the kids are too noisy for me to hear much, let alone feel calm enough to feel the spirit. Tell me I’m not the only one who’s been there! It’s also a time when I’m supposed to be teaching my kids to not only be quiet and listen but to enjoy the experience — and that can take work! We’ve done all sorts of things over the years, handing out candy when they listen to a talk or when they learn something from a talk, just sitting in the same room but with their toys so they can hear but have their hands occupied, and lots of the fun ideas you’ll find out in internet-land. There’s some super cute ideas out there! We’ve tried & had fun with lots of them.

As my kids have gotten older (ages 3-10 now), I wanted to move away from handing out candy and actually teach the kids how to learn something. But I still wanted to make it enjoyable. But how to do that?

As I thought and prayed over a couple weeks leading up to last General Conference, inspiration hit! I would give them a fun way to take notes — they would listen and learn but it would still be fun. That’s doable right? I knew that doing the same thing for each session would get old, so I had to come up with 4 different ideas, one for each session.

We used 4 of these ideas last conference and they were a hit! But I wanted to come up with a bunch of things we could rotate through, so here they are — 9 fun ways for kids to take notes during General Conference (while watching at home):

1 – Shape Art Notes: Randomly draw connected shapes on a piece of paper (or print out the one I made here). Kids get to write or draw something they learn about during the session in each shape and color it in. This is meant to last a full session of conference, so tell them not to rush and fill up all the shapes at once, just one or two things from each talk.

2 – Conference Posters: In the days leading up to General Conference, spend some time going through old church magazines and cutting out pictures that have to do with gospel topics. I sorted the pictures into ziploc sandwich bags by category (pictures of: family, temple, prayer, etc). For conference, each kid got a 1/2 piece of poster board and a glue stick. We laid out all the pictures on the floor — I took them out of their bags and put them on paper plates that were labeled as to what the pictures were. The kids were up on their feet for most of the session as they would listen, hear a key word and get up to find a picture of it. This one took some prep work, but was so worth it. I loved the way their posters turned out and we hung them up on the wall in our bedroom hallway for a while to help us remember what we learned in conference.

3 – Butcher Paper Art: Roll out a roll of butcher paper on the table or floor and give the kids markers, crayons, or colored pencils. As they listen, they can work together to write down or draw pictures of the things they hear and make one giant masterpiece.

4 – Post it Notes: Give each kid their own stack of post it notes. As they listen to the conference session, they can write or draw pictures of what they hear on the post it notes. Then stick those notes to a picture of the person who gave the talk. If you used our General Conference countdown and have the pictures of the apostles on the wall already, this is perfect! You’ll need to add some Mystery Speaker pages to the wall for the speakers that aren’t part of the 12 apostles and first presidency. Someone can draw a picture of the mystery speaker and you can write their name on the page before the post it notes get added.

5 – Mobile Notes: Have the kids use 3×5 cards (or cut out pieces of paper, different shapes would be fun!) to write or draw their notes of what they hear during the session. Add a string to each card and hang them from a hanger (here’s an example). These could be hung up in their bedrooms afterward as a reminder of what they learned at conference.

6 – Secret Message Notes: Each kid should get a piece of white paper and a white crayon. Have them write or draw what they hear during conference. This could be tricky for the little ones since they won’t be able to see as they draw, but some might still have fun with it. During the last talk of the session, they can trade papers and use watercolors to paint over the top of the paper and see the notes/drawings that the other person made being revealed!

7 – Bubble Notes: Similar to the shape art notes, create a page with circles all over it, using paint and a toilet paper roll (see this link for an example). The kids can do this as an activity between sessions on Saturday t0 use for notes during a Sunday session. Draw pictures or write notes in each circle. You could also use butcher paper or a larger sheet of paper and make your circles with a cup (as shown in the example link) for larger circles.

8 – Bookmarks: Print out a few bookmark templates for each kid (on cardstock if you won’t be laminating them). They can use one bookmark for each speaker to write or draw their notes. Write the name of the speaker and the conference year & session on the backside of the bookmark. After conference, cut out the bookmarks and laminate then let the kids keep them to use when reading. If When they lose them its not a big deal and maybe someone else will pick it up and enjoy the uplifting words or pictures from conference!

9 – Doodle Cubes: I saw this super cute idea on Pinterest (of course!) and thought it would be a great way to take notes. Print a few doodle cubes for each kid and have them write/draw their notes on the unfolded cubes. After the session, fold them up into cubes.

This post seems like it needs one more idea, doesn’t it? Like we need a nice round 10? I couldn’t come up with anything, but if you do, leave it in the comments so we can all benefit from your creativity! And if you try any of these ideas, I’d love to hear about it. Enjoy your General Conference weekend & I hope your kids learn to love it, too!

A Better Way to Wake up The Kids

February 12, 2018 by kim.milius@gmail.com 2 Comments

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One of my goals this year is to be a “more fun mom”. I can be quite the drill sergeant . . . I feel like I have to be with 5 young kids. Everyone has to know what to do and when to do it because I can’t do it all. When its all working the way its supposed to, its pretty efficient, but its not much fun. And I want my kids to want to be here, to love their family and the time they get to spend with us. So, I decided that this year, I want to find ways to add more fun to our routines and maybe some spontaneity, too.

Ever since coming back from Christmas break, the kids have struggled with getting up in the morning. My normally early risers were struggling to get out of bed and get moving in the morning — on school days only. Strangely, those same kids manage to get up super early and have tons of energy on the weekends — someone explain that one to me, please! Anyway, one morning I had this sudden thought that I should sing them awake. And so I headed to their rooms singing and they woke up a little more chipper, with some silly smiles on their faces wondering what was going on.

That day, I spent the day searching my memory and the iTunes store for some great “good morning” type songs. I wanted upbeat, fun, great music to wake up to but not too loud and crazy that it would be hard to talk over. I found a great short list of songs!

Oh, What a Beautiful Mornin’ by Gordon MacRae (from Oklahoma)
Good Morning by Gene Kelly, Debbie Reynolds & Donald O’Connor (from Singin in the Rain)
Wake Me Up Before You Go-Go by Wham!
Seize The Day (from Newsies)
Good Mornin’ Life by Dean Martin

Over the holidays, we had bought the coolest light bulb that we put in our hallways by the kids’ bedrooms. It replaces one of our “can” light bulbs. Its actually a light bulb that doubles as a sound system/speaker that I can hook up to my phone through bluetooth so I can play the music right there in the hallway, loud enough to reach the kids’ rooms. (It also still has the light, so its just as bright as before, but you can also make it change different colors and pulse to the beat of the music — this thing is awesome!) See, when I was a teenager, one of my best friends had an intercom system in her house that her mom would play music over. I always thought it was awesome and that was one of the things I wanted in my house when I grew up! This is as close as I’ve gotten to having an intercom system and I think its a pretty fun way to do it. It is perfect for our wake up music in the morning.

And my kids love the new wake up call! I sing, and sometimes dance, through the morning routine (so I’m a happier mom!), and they’re learning these super fun songs and are singing along (and laughing more) now too. We could use some additions to our playlist, so if you can think of any great “morning” songs that we need to wake up to, let me know!

The Trip When Everything Went Wrong

January 3, 2018 by kim.milius@gmail.com 2 Comments

We had quite a year in 2017 with selling our house, neck surgery for me, moving to a different state, living in a hotel for 6 weeks, moving into a new house, a surprise pregnancy, a difficult miscarriage, lots of illness, major home repairs on our “new” home, and my husband, Jeff, breaking his ankle and foot on Thanksgiving day.

We ended the year with a trip home to Arizona to spend time with our extended families that didn’t go at all as planned. I try really hard not to use social media (or the blog) to vent or whine about things going wrong. So its taken a month, but I can now laugh at how ridiculously wrong the whole thing went. So, I guess that means its time to share and maybe you can laugh with me!

I was hesitant to even go on the trip because Jeff wasn’t able to do much with a cast on his leg which meant most of the work would fall on me. And a trip with 5 kids under 10, especially at Christmas, is a lot of work!! But we went for Christmas last year and at my family’s Christmas party we won this silly singing Christmas tree thing during one of the games. It was one of those things from our childhood that we all laughed and laughed about. So, when my mom surprised us with it as a game prize, we joked that whoever won it would get it for a year and then have to bring it back the next year for another family to win. So I felt this need to go back since we had to bring the singing Christmas tree for someone else to win. And we had also decided to have Evie, our 8 year old, baptized there so all our extended family could be there for that special day. It was a good plan that went horribly wrong.

The day before we left, the boys told me their bedroom floor was wet. I was worried about what kind of bodily fluids I was going to be cleaning up but they both swore it wasn’t from them. As I felt around more, it was obvious there was a problem. So, we pulled back the carpet and found a major puddle under the carpet pad. It looked like it was probably coming from the master shower on the other side of the wall. Since I was still trying to get 7 people packed up for a trip and Jeff couldn’t do much, I put him to work making calls to the homeowner’s insurance and plumbers. Since it was right before Christmas, a plumber couldn’t be scheduled for a week. And since we were going to have to wait for a plumber until after Christmas anyway, we decided to go ahead and go on our trip. So, added to an already crazy busy day of prepping for a trip, I pulled back the carpet and pad, dried them out as best as I could, and Jeff turned off the water main as we drove out of town, praying for the best.

The drive went as well as could be expected when you consider 5 kids (ages 3-10) crammed in a car with two sleep deprived adults for 15 hours in one day and a dvd player that had worked the night before but refused to work on the trip. We were staying at my parents’ mountain home in Snowflake, AZ and crammed into their house along with a couple of my siblings and more than a dozen kids. My parent’s have a great space off their bedroom that they laid out wall to wall sleeping bags for the kids to crash at night. My mom joked about it sounding like a tuberculosis ward because everybody brought coughing kids with them. But we were all having a great time despite the coughs.

My brother-in-law is an optometrist and made our first medical diagnosis of the trip. Breanna (3 yrs old) had woken up the morning we left home with goopy, crusty eyes. I had just wiped them off and gone on with the trip. But by the next day, it was worse and they were continuing to drain all day. He was sure it was conjunctivitis and was luckily able to get us some eye drops to help.

It only got worse from there. The first full day we were there, we had kids throwing up. Luckily, they made it to the bathroom and over the toilet. We hoped it was just a fluke because traveling with kids can kind of throw their little bodies for a loop sometimes. But we weren’t that lucky!

Christmas Eve and Christmas Day were filled with sickness and by then we knew that things were going to be really bad. We were planning to drive 3 hours away to stay with my in-laws in Gilbert (Phoenix area) a couple days after Christmas. My parents had to head to their other house in Mesa (Phoenix area) for their responsibilities and we were planning to leave Snowflake at that same time. But my mother-in-law can end up in the hospital when exposed to stomach bugs, flu, etc. So, we had to cancel our plans to stay with them. The kids were coughing so bad, running fevers, miserable, and there was still some throwing up going on. So, instead, my parent’s left and we stayed behind with our sick kids. Now, our trip to visit family had us in an empty house, 3 hours away from all grandparents, and with a bunch of sick kids. I just wanted to go home and take care of everyone there. But we had to stay for the baptism that was planned in a few days.

My dad had a doctor’s appointment after they left to their other house and he had a confirmed case of the flu. With how rotten we were all feeling (myself included), we decided a trip to urgent care was in order. Snowflake is a small town and we had to drive to another town 1/2 hour away to find an urgent care. We spent most of the morning there. The doctor was worried about swabbing all the kids and wanted to just test me and if it came back positive then he would test the kids. But I fought with him over it which was a good thing since I got a negative test result. We did get one confirmed case of the flu from Chase (10 yrs). We’re pretty sure we all had it but were just too far into it for a positive test result. Chase was just starting to get sick at that point.

They prescribed Tamiflu for all of us since we had one confirmed case of the flu in the family. We asked them to send the prescription to a pharmacy in Snowflake and figured it would be ready by the time we drove back there. We stopped at the pharmacy before going to my parent’s house and they hadn’t even received it yet. So, we went back to the house and waited a couple hours before calling the pharmacy to see if they had it yet. Still no. So, I called the urgent care back and it turned out they had sent the prescription to the wrong pharmacy. So, they were going to call it into the right one; they ended up calling me back to let me know that the pharmacy near us was completely out of Tamiflu. Not only that, but the pharmacy they had originally called was out of it too. They called around and finally found one pharmacy that had enough for us and was going to put it on hold for us so they didn’t run out . . . but it was in the town that the urgent care was in. So back in the car I went for another 1/2 hour drive to pick up a prescription. When I got there, they didn’t have the prescriptions ready and couldn’t even find anything for us. They finally located prescriptions for 2 of us. A few minutes later they found they other two but insisted they didn’t have one for Chase, who was the one who needed it most. A few minutes later, they finally found it and said they would now start working on filling them. I waited for what seemed like forever and finally got called up. They had them all filled except the one for Chase because they ran out of the dose that he needed! He got his prescription half filled and we were told we’d have to get the rest of it somewhere else. They couldn’t get the computer to work with this kind of a dosage so I would have to pay full price and then full price again for the rest of the prescription. I told them I didn’t even care at that point, I just wanted to get the medicine. Our co-pay turned out to only be $10 so it really wasn’t a huge deal for as desperate as I felt! By the time I made it back to my parent’s house, it had taken a full day for us to do urgent care and the pharmacy and we only ended up with half the medication Chase needed. (And we never were able to find a pharmacy with any Tamiflu in stock in Arizona or when we got back to Texas!)

On top of the flu, each night I had a kid throwing up. And this stomach bug was so bad that my kids that normally can make it to the toilet with no problem were waking up and vomiting before they could even stand up. They were sleeping on the floor in sleeping bags. Yep, I was spending my nights, while everyone else was sleeping, running loads of sleeping bags through the wash, while I was still trying to recover from the flu myself. The last night we were there, Chase threw up over his own AND two other sleeping bags. Of course, I could only get one sleeping bag in the washing machine at a time. By this point, I was so exhausted and the idea of being awake washing 3 loads of sleeping bags just put me over the edge. I called my mom to give her an update and just bawled over the phone to her. I was soooooo done!

But the next morning, I managed to get everything packed and everyone loaded up and in the car to drive the 3 hours to where all our extended family lives and where we would be having the baptism. Before we even got out of the neighborhood, Landon (5 yrs) was sick to his stomach. Luckily, I keep one of those pink hospital tubs in the car for throw up emergencies. I tossed it back to him and he threw up. So, we had to find a spot (outside the neighborhood and not in someone’s yard!) to pull over and dump it and clean it out. We also made a stop at a 7-11 to buy some empty large drink cups so we had enough for whoever might throw up. It took us a full hour from the time I locked the door of my parent’s house to the time we actually pulled out of town. Landon threw up 2 more times on the drive that day.

As we pulled into Mesa, our brakes started making this horrible — and I mean horrible! — grinding sound. So, we got checked into a hotel and I left Jeff and the kids and sped straight for a repair shop that was closing in half an hour. $400 and 2 hours later, our brakes and shocks were fixed and the car was sounding so much better. It was well past our normal dinner time and poor Jeff was trapped at the hotel with 5 kids who were getting very restless. I stopped for fast food and got back to the hotel as quickly as possible. And then we got kids to bed since we had to be up and ready for the baptism the next morning.

The hotel stay was not in our original trip plan since we were planning to be staying with my in-laws. But when we knew we were going to have to stay in a hotel, we only knew of one option. We wanted to be close to where the baptism would be but it was in not the best area of town and we weren’t sure about what hotels would even be in the area. But just shy of 20 years ago (it was 20 years on Jan 10th), we had stayed at a La Quinta in that area after our wedding reception for our little one night honeymoon. It was a brand new hotel when we stayed there, their first week in business if I remember correctly, and it was really nice. We had no idea what it was like now, but figured it was a good option. When Jeff called to make a reservation this time, they answered the phone with comments about the “newly renovated La Quinta”. It was beautifully renovated but we had to laugh that this time around we had to get two separate rooms and Jeff slept in one room with two of the kids and I was in the other room with the other 3 kids. What a difference 20 years makes & what a funny early anniversary celebration it was!!

The next morning, I ran down to the hotel lobby to grab breakfast for all 7 of us. As you can imagine, it takes a lot of food to feed us but I didn’t want kids getting their church clothes dirty or going downstairs in pajamas so bringing it up to the room was the only option. I loaded up my arms and took up as much food as I could!

We managed to get ready and get to the church for the baptism with no problems — it was a pretty smooth and easy morning! We were having the baptism and putting on a lunch afterward for the extended family that would be there with us. Before we got inside, my sister was already there and let us know there was a scheduling conflict. Our mom had scheduled the kitchen, the gym (for the lunch), and the room we needed for the baptism. When we got there, the kitchen was full of people who were making something for a service project — they had also scheduled the kitchen. And the gym was decorated for a wedding reception — that had also been scheduled. When my mom arrived called the building scheduler to find out what was going on, he admitted there might be a little bit of overlap between the events. So now we were planning a lunch for 70+ people and had no place to have it or kitchen to prepare it. When my mom’s Bishop arrived for the baptism and she told him what was going on, he was not nearly as stressed out as we were. Instead, he blessed my life by sharing a family saying of his: Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not get bent out of shape. And everything really went okay. The people working in the kitchen were gone soon and we were able to get our food prepped. And after the baptism, we just had our friends and family help move some tables into the room we were already in to eat right there. It all worked out and we enjoyed our time with family. (Side note: I didn’t realize it at the time, but it turned out that the Bishop had been the drama teacher, Mr. C from the high school that I went to.)

Since Jeff’s parents would be at the baptism and we were still worried about getting my mother-in-law sick, we made Chase sit just outside the room where he could see into the room but wasn’t breathing the same air as everyone else. The poor kid felt miserable and was as white as a ghost. And on top of the flu, after we got to the church he started feeling sick to the stomach. Luckily, and gratefully, he made it to the restroom in time and there were no messes to clean up after him.

The baptism was beautiful and there was such a special spirit there. It was really great to be there with family and for Evie and her cousin, Crue, to get to share their baptism day. That night that I had bawled over the phone to my mom a thought had come into my mind while I was crying over everything and talking about how I wished we could just go home and be sick there. I remembered hearing, years earlier, a speaker named Jack Christensen talk about how Satan tries to distract us when we are about to have a great spiritual experience by throwing all sorts of obstacles in our way because he really doesn’t want us to have those great spiritual experiences. I truly feel like this trip did that for us, and I’m so glad we persevered and were still able to do the baptism as planned . . . when nothing else went as planned.

After we cleaned up and loaded everyone in the car, before we even left the parking lot, we had Lexi (5 yrs) throwing up in the car but she made it into one of those 7-11 drink cups that Jeff insisted we buy before we left Snowflake. She sat there retching over and over and completely filled it up — it was disgusting and by that point hilarious, too!! We ran a couple of errands and then started out on our drive. We were headed to my sister’s house in Thatcher which was a couple hours out of town and on our way back home to Texas. My family was all going to meet there to celebrate New Year’s Eve and we were excited to spend a couple more fun days before heading home. Thatcher is actually the town where I had attended a semester of college and later Jeff attended a semester, but where he had also proposed to me. So it would be fun to see some of the town again and reminisce with our 20th anniversary just a week and a half away. But right before going to bed that night, I happened to look online and see talk of a nasty ice storm heading through Texas. Being new to the area, we were worried about the roads and didn’t know how they would be to travel. We did not want to be out on a stretch of highway in the middle of nowhere and hit ice! So, we decided to skip the party and fun and instead headed out the very next morning to try to get ahead of the storm. We still hit quite a bit of ice as we drove but the roads were warm enough at that point that it didn’t cause us any problems and we made it home!

When we got home, there were no additional problems with the leak we had left behind and the carpet had finished drying out pretty well. We had a couple days to recuperate and then the kids headed back to school. And I swore I wouldn’t take another road trip for a good long time.

Taking Care of Mom (post #3)

December 12, 2017 by kim.milius@gmail.com Leave a Comment

Several weeks ago, I started a series on getting in shape. I was supposed to post every Friday. And I managed to post a whopping total of TWO times before life once again got in the way. We had been battling illness around our house and it only got worse. We went through one thing after another, including a bout with walking pneumonia and the stomach flu. And just when things were calming down, my husband went out to play football on Thanksgiving morning and broke his ankle and foot!

Of course, that new development kind of threw us for a loop! He’s now in a cast for 6 weeks, but I’m happy to say that I’m handling it pretty well. So, I wanted to finally update you on my progress.

You’ll see that I changed the title to this series of posts. I’ve been listening to some podcasts and attended a midweek activity at church and realized that what I’m really wanting to do isn’t so much about getting into shape or losing weight as it is about taking care of myself . . . taking care of the body and mind that I have so that they will function as well as possible and so I can take care of my family and do the things I love in life. And despite all the struggles in the recent weeks, I am making progress! I have felt more energy and enthusiasm for life and for motherhood and even for cleaning the house!

Rather than aiming for a certain weight or shape, what its really about is taking care of the mom so she is happier can take care of everyone else. There have been lots of road blocks along the way and there will continue to be, that’s just life. The challenge becomes finding ways to work with my circumstances, whatever they currently are, to problem solve and find a way to make it work.

So, when I’m not able to get out and exercise as consistently as I’d like to, I can at least make sure I’m walking the kids to school and home from school a few times a week. Or I can crank up the music and dance my way through the house cleaning that needs to be done.

I’ve also compiled a list of our family’s favorite healthy meals, and focused on those that also require very little time in the kitchen. I try to pull most of our meals from that list each week so there are quick healthy meals available instead of resorting to the drive-thru.

I’ve also found two awesome resources to keep me on track! I’ve been listening to a podcast called Thinner Peace by Dr. Deb Butler. Now, what’s funny is that its for women going through and after menopause. I’m not there quite yet, but I think most of what she has to say really relates to everyone, but especially those of us that are getting a little older and feel the effects of a slowing metabolism. And its great stuff!!! I’ve also joined a Facebook accountability group called Holiday Hustle by Liz Tennyson. She’s a fitness trainer but her challenges haven’t been focused on food and rigorous exercise so far. She posts some recipes, but what she’s challenging us to do is make lifestyle changes that will lead to a healthier and happier life. It’s been fantastic and I am loving it!

A Christ Centered Alternative to the Elf on the Shelf

November 29, 2017 by kim.milius@gmail.com Leave a Comment

We’ve never done Elf on the Shelf. And every year my kids hear about it from other kids and at least one of them asks if we can have our own elf. And I say no.

The biggest reason is that it is one more thing for me to have to do. And I don’t want one more thing to do . . . especially in December when we have Christmas, one birthday, and two birthdays coming up just days into the new year.

But what if there was something we could do that would bring some “magic” into the house and help us celebrate the season a little better? Something that wouldn’t take a whole lot of extra effort on my part? Something that would help my kids behave better but also would help focus us on Christ instead of Santa?

Well, we finally found the answer and this year we have our very own Little Lamb from Bethlehem. This is seriously the cutest little stuffed lamb with a book that tells the story of the birth of Christ in a simple way that children can understand, while also including the actual scripture verses if you want to read those as well.

The lamb is supposed to help us remember Jesus throughout the Christmas season. And the book includes some ideas of how you can use the lamb. But we came up with our own. The Little Lamb from Bethlehem is supposed to help us remember to show more kindness, just the way Jesus did, so we can become more like Him. So, our Little Lamb is linked to service. If the Little Lamb shows up on your bed, that means that someone did a service for you and you have 24 hours to quietly do a service for someone else in the family and put lamb on their bed for them to find. We want him to stay looking nice, so the kids aren’t allowed to sleep with him. If its on their bed at bedtime, it gets moved to the dresser until they have a chance to do their service the next day.

So, let me tell you about the cool thing that happened on our very first day. My daughter has been really ornery lately and she and I are butting heads a lot. She hasn’t been very pleasant to be around and most of her anger is directed toward me. After some prayer, I was prompted to have her be the first one to get the lamb and she gave her service to me. It was amazing to me that she picked to do something nice for me, even though she spends most of her time grumbling at me. And her attitude was a little bit better after that, too. I look forward to enjoying the rest of the Christmas season with a focus on service and love in our home as we try to become a little more like our Savior.

Wisdom Hairs

November 3, 2017 by kim.milius@gmail.com 1 Comment

We were at Sea World with the kids, in line for a ride when I happened to bend down and my 7 year old took note of all the white hairs that are noticeable on the top of my head. She let out a “wow!” and wasn’t shy in pointing out to me that I had a lot of white hairs. What followed was one of those magical parenting moments. They don’t happen nearly as often as I’d like, so I savor them when they do.

“Those are my wisdom hairs,” I told her and all the kids who were now listening intently.

“What’s that?” she asked.

“Each one of those hairs represents wisdom that I’ve gained over the years.”

We laughed with Dad about how he doesn’t have any wisdom hairs on his head since he’s bald but that he’s starting to get more and more wisdom hairs in his goatee.

And then the 9 year old took the conversation in a perfect direction as he asked, “Can I take a few of your wisdom hairs and put them on my head?”

And very wisely ? I responded, “Wisdom hairs can’t be given away. If I gave you some, they’d just fall off your head. You have to earn your wisdom hairs throughout your life as you learn and grow through hard things, just like I have. And then, one day, I promise you’ll get your wisdom hairs, too.”

The conversation and fun moved on from there. But it was one of those moments I hope my kids will remember. The next time they are going through something hard, I’ll remind them that they’re in the process of earning their wisdom hairs. And the next time I look in the mirror and lament the physical signs of aging, I’ll remember the value of the experiences that have brought me to this stage in life and I will embrace the gray.

Halloween Candy

November 2, 2017 by kim.milius@gmail.com Leave a Comment

Is all that Halloween candy that your kids collected driving you nuts yet? In the past we’ve done the Great Pumpkin, or some people call it the Switch Witch. On Halloween night, the kids get to pick a few pieces of candy to keep and leave the rest which gets taken by the Great Pumpkin or Switch Witch. In the morning, they find a new toy in its place. But we have toys coming out our ears and birthdays and Christmas coming up, plus it’s expensive to buy even a $5-$7 toy for 5 kids. Last year, we tried having the kids pick out some candy to keep and donate the rest of it. But I didn’t find a place to donate until the day after they stopped taking donations. So, we needed a new plan this year.

It took me a couple days to come up with it, but here’s what we did:

I gave each of the kids a sandwich size bag and told them to pick out the candies they want to use to decorate gingerbread houses in December. This ended up being so much fun as they planned out what they’re going to do. One kid has plans for a fish pond with his gingerbread house to use his Swedish Fish and a package of gummy sharks! Another is going to use Fun Dip to sprinkle on the floor of his Gingerbread house. The added bonus here is that it will save me tons of money over having to buy several different bags of candy for gingerbread houses in December!
Then, I gave each kid a gallon size bag. They got to fill up that bag with the candy they wanted to keep. Anything that didn’t fit in the bag went in a bowl in the middle of the table. That’s the candy they weren’t going to get to keep.
Our rule for candy consumption lets them govern themselves a bit. They are allowed to have up to three pieces a day (things like fun dip or large pixie sticks count as 3 pieces). And they don’t need to ask me first. They can just get it when they want, as long as it’s not before school or before breakfast on the weekend. This is saving me from hearing, “Can I have a piece of candy?” 15 times a day. We did this last year and it worked really well. You also see their personalities come out a bit as some kids eat their three pieces every day as soon as they’re home from school and others make them last longer by only eating one a day.

Leave me a comment if you have a great solution to share. Or if you decide to try these ideas, let me know how it goes!

Book Review: Jack – The True story of Jack & the Beanstalk

October 30, 2017 by kim.milius@gmail.com Leave a Comment

I just finished reading an awesome book to the kids! Jack – The True Story of Jack & The Beanstalk by Liesl Shurtliff is sure to be a family favorite! Its great to read aloud to your kids but if you have a kid that loves to read (3rd or 4th grade and older), I’m sure it would be a well loved story. I’m always on the look out for good, clean, uplifting books to have in our home library and this one really delivers. Before I read this to the kids, I read it on my own to preview it and I was impressed with how much I enjoyed the story. It really does give a fascinating take on the Jack & the Beanstalk story. There were so many times when I had to tell my husband about different parts of the book because I loved the imagination that was used to develop this fairy tale into a 292 page book. But don’t let the number of pages deter you (or your kids). It took a few months for me to read the whole thing to the kids because I don’t read aloud to them every day (usually only a couple times a week). But by the last few chapters, they were begging me to read every night and didn’t want me to stop with just one chapter. I also loved that even though Jack is the main character, his sister Annabella played a big part in the story, too. This was a big deal to my 7 year old daughter so she didn’t feel like it was just a “boy’s book”. It was action packed but full of heart and a good message. You’ll want to add it to your library!

So, this author was fantastic and she has a few other books all based on fairy tales. Even though I haven’t read them yet, they’re on my “to buy” list because I’m sure they will be just as great as this one!

Rump – The True Story of Rumplestiltskin (this was her first book)

Red – The True Story of Red Riding Hood

Grump – The Fairly True Story of Snow White and the Seven Dwarves

(Release date: May 29, 2018)

Week 3: Getting in Shape — after 40

October 27, 2017 by kim.milius@gmail.com Leave a Comment

(If you’re just finding this, you can click here to go back to week 1, the first of my getting in shape after 40 series.)

Well, its the end of week 2 and start of week 3. This week was a little more challenging for me with super sick kids (I had kids home from school Monday – Wednesday) which meant I couldn’t stick to my normal schedule. I only got out to walk/jog one time this week and some days I was just too worn out from all the extra work of sick kids that I couldn’t get myself to do much of anything. It was a blah start to the week, for sure. But, I haven’t added a Dove chocolate bar (or any extra treat, which had become standard for me) to my grocery pickup in the last 2 weeks. And I bought a bag of Halloween candy earlier in the week and I haven’t even touched it. So, I consider this week a success!

Some tips & recipes from this week:

Tip 1: I really don’t want to be making a separate meal for me than what I do for the rest of the family and I want to make sure this is a lifestyle change not just a temporary diet. So, I’ve been working on making many of my same recipes but making them healthier. I like to make muffins for breakfast, so I’ve been substituting applesauce for oil and in this Chocolate Zucchini Muffin recipe, I also cut the amount of sugar it calls for in half, and reduce the amount of chocolate chips. I want to try it with whole wheat flour or at least 1/2 whole wheat & 1/2 white flour next time. We love this muffin recipe and it gets some veggies in our breakfast!

Tip 2: I’ve really learned this week the value of having a backup workout plan. On days when I have sick kids or the weather is bad, if I don’t have a plan ahead of time, I’ll just end up doing nothing. When you’re a mom, flexibility is key!

Tip 3: My favorite healthy snack/treat is apple slices with natural peanut butter. I’m keeping lots of apples on hand and have eaten a lot of apples and peanut butter this week. When I’m really needing a treat, I’ll go a little less healthy with a spoonful of natural peanut butter with a few chocolate chips sprinkled on top. I should really get the chocolate chips out of my house but I figure this is a better option than eating a candy bar, bowl of ice cream, or bag of chips.

Applesauce Oatmeal Muffins: A friend introduced me to these muffins this week. They were great! I went home and printed out the recipe immediately and made them to have for breakfast this week. The kids loved them too, so you know this recipe is a winner!

Fruit Salad: We like to use fruit salad as a side dish for meals. It’s like having a treat with dinner and its healthy. What’s not to love. We don’t mix the fruit with anything, just chop it up and mix it together. Our typical fruit salad is strawberries, grapes, and apples. I made more than usual last night for dinner so today I get to eat leftovers with lunch! (If you add bananas, leftovers aren’t the best, so I usually leave them out.)

Taco Salad: This is about as simple as it gets! We love taco salad! Make it without chips to make it even healthier, but even if you indulge in just a couple chips, its still pretty healthy. We just layer the ingredients on our plate: tortilla chips, salad, black beans (I use 2 cans of seasoned black beans from Walmart mixed with half a pound of cooked ground turkey), little sprinkling of cheese, a couple slices of avocado, some olives or green onions or tomatoes. So delicious!

Greek Tacos: This is one of our favorite meals! The first time I made it, I wasn’t sure how this “healthy” recipe would go over, but my whole family just devoured these amazing tacos.

Alright! It’s your turn to share! Tell me about your favorite healthy recipes or tips that I need to put into place. Your feedback will keep me going on this & I need that!